Sunday, 9 June 2013
Bela's Corner: Black Men Are Ready For Commitment More Than Black Women "True/False"
A recent survey reveals that single black men were much more likely to say they were looking for a long-term relationship (43 percent) compared to single black women (25 percent). Do you think this is true or false and please state your reason(s). For more on the topic click here .
Saturday, 8 June 2013
Serena Williams Wins the 2013 French Open Title After Defeating Maria Sharapova
Serena Williams won her 16th Grand Slam title and her first French Open championship since 2002 when she beat familiar foil Maria Sharapova 6-4, 6-4 on Saturday. The victory completed the No. 1-ranked Williams' rebound from a shocking loss to 111th-ranked Virginie Razzano in the first round at Roland Garros a year ago. Since that defeat she's 74-3, including titles at Wimbledon, the U.S. Open, the London Olympics and the season-ending WTA Championships.
Williams whacked 10 aces, including three in the final game, to extend her career-best winning streak to 31 matches. She improved to 14-2 against Sharapova, with victories in their past 13 meetings and four of the wins this year. At 31, Williams became the oldest woman to win a major title since Martina Navratilova at Wimbledon in 1990 at age 33. Her 11-year gap between Roland Garros titles is the longest for any woman.
Williams whacked 10 aces, including three in the final game, to extend her career-best winning streak to 31 matches. She improved to 14-2 against Sharapova, with victories in their past 13 meetings and four of the wins this year. At 31, Williams became the oldest woman to win a major title since Martina Navratilova at Wimbledon in 1990 at age 33. Her 11-year gap between Roland Garros titles is the longest for any woman.
Friday, 7 June 2013
My Coconut Cake Recipe...Yummy!!
This is a delicious coconut cake recipe which I think will add zest to your day. Try a coconut icing to top it off and a pineapple/coconut milk drink to go with it. Do enjoy!!
Ingredients
Serves : 6
200g (8 oz) plain flour
1/2 teaspoon salt
2 teaspoons baking powder
75g (3 oz) butter
75g (3 oz) sugar
50g (2 oz) desiccated coconut
1/2 teaspoon grated lime zest (optional)
1 egg
125ml milk
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
Directions
Prep:20min › Cook:40min › Extra time:40min › Ready in:1hr40min
Sift flour, salt and baking powder together into a bowl. Rub in the butter until mixture looks like fine breadcrumbs. Add sugar, coconut and lime zest.
In a separate bowl, beat egg and add 100ml of the milk and vanilla.
Make a well in centre of flour mixture. Add liquid and mix well to form a stiff consistency, adding the additional milk if necessary.
Place in a greased 15cm (6 inch) cake tin and bake at 180 C / Gas 4 for 40 minutes, or until a knife inserted in the middle comes out clean.
Icing ideas...
Try this Coconut cream cheese icing or try a simple buttercream, then sprinkle with more coconut. For an especially pretty presentation, toast the coconut in a dry frying pan for a few minutes over medium heat. For a sweet coconut, mix the coconut with icing sugar before sprinkling on the buttercream.
Ingredients
Serves : 6
200g (8 oz) plain flour
1/2 teaspoon salt
2 teaspoons baking powder
75g (3 oz) butter
75g (3 oz) sugar
50g (2 oz) desiccated coconut
1/2 teaspoon grated lime zest (optional)
1 egg
125ml milk
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
Directions
Prep:20min › Cook:40min › Extra time:40min › Ready in:1hr40min
Sift flour, salt and baking powder together into a bowl. Rub in the butter until mixture looks like fine breadcrumbs. Add sugar, coconut and lime zest.
In a separate bowl, beat egg and add 100ml of the milk and vanilla.
Make a well in centre of flour mixture. Add liquid and mix well to form a stiff consistency, adding the additional milk if necessary.
Place in a greased 15cm (6 inch) cake tin and bake at 180 C / Gas 4 for 40 minutes, or until a knife inserted in the middle comes out clean.
Icing ideas...
Try this Coconut cream cheese icing or try a simple buttercream, then sprinkle with more coconut. For an especially pretty presentation, toast the coconut in a dry frying pan for a few minutes over medium heat. For a sweet coconut, mix the coconut with icing sugar before sprinkling on the buttercream.
It's a Boy For Tamar Braxton...
Congratulations Tamar and Vince!!! Yes, the couple announced via twitter last night that their bundle of joy has finally arrived. Last night also saw the season finale of the Braxton Family Values with the sisters twerking it out. See tamar's tweet below...
Saturday, 1 June 2013
Go Bela Its Your Birthday!!!!!!!!!!
It's a new season for yours truly "Belarich" and I can't help but appreciate y'all for the love and support thus far. Say a word of prayer for me today at your spare time and join me in celebrating all year long. Happy Birthday to moi !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Tuesday, 21 May 2013
Question of the Day: Should Couples Have a Joint Account or Individual Accounts?!
I recently read a post on a blog jemimaNigeria that "two shall become one even in their bank accounts" and this raised the above question in my head. I've noticed that couples are usually very sensitive about the issue of money in order not to appear as a gold-digger. So, in your opinion, do you think couples should have a joint account rather than an individual account?!
Jay-Z Shuts Down Rumor of Beyonce's Pregnancy.
The Beyonce pregnancy rumors seem to be the new topic for discussion but the superstar and her hubby are denying it. First it was Beyone who took to instagram to voice her opinion and now her husband is doing the same. According to Hot 97's Morning Show Program Director, Ebro emailed Hova himself to congratulate him on the news and the Open Letter rapper replied:
Only time will tell. Stay tuned...
"It's not true, the news is worse than blogs."There you have it straight from the horse's... email. Last weekend E! News got confirmation from "multiple sources" that Beyonce was indeed pregnant, but there should be no greater source than Mrs. Carter's husband, Shawn Carter, right?
Only time will tell. Stay tuned...
Make a Difference this Children's Day with Jumia.com
Lagos, Nigeria, May 21, 2013- As the world gets ready to mark yet another Children’s Day, your number 1 online retailer, Jumia.com has introduced a charity give-back initiative using its social media platform. “In celebrating this year’s children’s day, we at Jumia in addition to other onsite initiatives will be giving back to the less privileged children in the society using our Facebook and Twitter pages. This is an initiative that will require the support of our friends on social media, how? It starts with a like or follow on Facebook and Twitter respectively. We are very grateful to our friends who have supported the cause so far; as we speak we have already raised N5, 877 in the first day. ”, this was according to Opeyemi Adetomiwa, community manager at Jumia.com.
All it takes is for every ‘like’ on the Jumia Facebook and ‘follow’ on their Twitter pages, N1 will be donated to a charity on children’s day. SO, all you need do to put a smile on the face of that needy child this Children’s Day is to ‘like’, ‘follow’ and ‘share’ with your own friends, it’s that simple.
Click here to start ‘liking’, you could be the reason for that kids smile.
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Thursday, 9 May 2013
American Idol Fires All The Judges...
I was so waiting for this to happen cos' this season was the most boring season ever, I couldn't even finish 1 episode of the season. Well, apparently none of the four judges on the singing competition will be asked to return next season, an individual with knowledge of Fox’s plans told The Wrap. Longtime producer Nigel Lythgoe is expected to get the boot. And despite reports to the contrary, Fox isn’t even considering bringing former judge Jennifer Lopez back as a lifesaver for next season.
“All four are gone,” the insider told TheWrap. “They feel they’ve lost their core audience and they want it back.”
Driven by this belief and the need to attract younger viewers, Fox is set to make major on-air changes to “Idol,” the most notable of which will be an entirely new judging panel. New judges pop icon Mariah Carey, rapper Nicki Minaj and country star Keith Urban won’t be back. Even original judge Randy Jackson won’t survive the blood bath this time around.
All four judges have options to return for another season, but Fox won’t be picking them up, according to the knowledgeable individual, who said: “No more big checks for divas.”
Fox’s meltdown has everything to do with the talent competition’s declining viewership. Its ratings are already down 22 percent this season and it hit a series low for ratings last Thursday, when it attracted only 11 million viewers and a 2.4 rating/7 share in the ad-coveted 18-49 demographic. The ratings slide is especially problematic during May Sweeps, where ratings numbers are used to dictate advertising rates.
The network has resolved to stop paying the huge salaries it has been shoveling out for its big name talent, i.e. Carey’s reported $18 million package, Minaj’s $12 million salary and former judge Jennifer Lopez’s $15 million.
The show’s format will also change. Its look will be redesigned and the dated tribute nights will be a thing of the past. But the show’s trademark audition episodes will continue.
Meet Charles Ramsey "Dead Giveaway"...LMAO
Charles Ramsey’s name has been trending on Twitter for the last couple of days, which makes him a national treasure at this point. The gregarious Cleveland man came to fame when by happenstance he was instrumental in saving three women that had been held captive for 10 years. Above is the actual interview that took place after the incident happened, and the video below is the song version of the interview...lmbo
Micheal Jackson Accused of Sexual Molestation Even in Death?!
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| on the left is Wade and Mj when he was 7...on the right is Wade now. |
Robson’s lawyer, Henry Gradstein, tells TMZ, “Last year, on a career trajectory that was off the charts, he [Wade] collapsed under the stress and sexual trauma of what had happened to him for seven years as a child.” Robson spent many weekends with Jackson at Neverland Ranch and his other homes in L.A. and Vegas between ages 7 and 14. Gradstein goes on … “He [Wade] lived with the brain washing by a sexual predator until the burden of it all crushed him.”
Gradstein says Michael would tell Wade, “If anyone ever finds out about what we did we will go to jail for the rest of our lives” and “our lives will be ruined forever.” Gradstein tells us the threats worked, and Wade kept his mouth shut, adding, “This kind of intimidation of a child by a sexual predator is tragically characteristic and effective, keeping them quiet about the abuse – often for a lifetime.”
Wade was steadfast for years that MJ did NOT molest him and indeed became Jackson’s star witness at his 2005 molestation trial, adamantly denying any untoward conduct.The lawyer says, “Michael Jackson was a monster and in their hearts every normal person knows it.”
Tuesday, 7 May 2013
Kanye West Mad At Kim Over Her Dress At The Met Gala??!
According to Life & Style, Kim's decision to wear a dress by Givenchy to her first Met Gala has attracted a lot of criticism and in turn making Kanye angry. The seven-months-pregnant star, 32, decided to wear a floor-length, bright-patterned Givenchy to her first Met Gala just hours before hitting the red carpet with her beau, Kanye West, 35. “She had the Givenchy severely altered at the last minute on orders of her new stylist,” a fashion insider tells Life & Style because of her growing body. Her stylist also adviced her to add sleeves since she's gained a lot of weight in her arms. The source also says that the stylist has taken off a belt structure that was making her look cumbersome.
Apparently, this was not sitting well with her boyfriend and the source claimed, “Kanye is annoyed, as the dress is by his best friend Riccardo Tisci at Givenchy, and he feels embarrassed that Kim is messing with a beautiful piece of art.”
Another insider also tells Life & Style that “Kim wanted everything to be perfect when it came to her dress, so she had three seamstresses.”Getting ready for her Gala debut hasn’t been so easy for the expectant mom, who’s faced harsh criticism for her pregnancy style.
As Life & Style reported last week, Vogue Editor-in-Chief Anna Wintour — who famously snubbed the E! reality star from attending last year — agreed she could go because of Kanye. Since he is performing, he was allowed to invite her. Before deciding to wear Givenchy to fashion’s biggest night of the year, Kim — who is due to give birth in July — was having a hard time trying to fit into her original dress. “It had to be modified five times for her growing frame,” a Kardashian pal told Life & Style late last week.
Apparently, this was not sitting well with her boyfriend and the source claimed, “Kanye is annoyed, as the dress is by his best friend Riccardo Tisci at Givenchy, and he feels embarrassed that Kim is messing with a beautiful piece of art.”
Another insider also tells Life & Style that “Kim wanted everything to be perfect when it came to her dress, so she had three seamstresses.”Getting ready for her Gala debut hasn’t been so easy for the expectant mom, who’s faced harsh criticism for her pregnancy style.
As Life & Style reported last week, Vogue Editor-in-Chief Anna Wintour — who famously snubbed the E! reality star from attending last year — agreed she could go because of Kanye. Since he is performing, he was allowed to invite her. Before deciding to wear Givenchy to fashion’s biggest night of the year, Kim — who is due to give birth in July — was having a hard time trying to fit into her original dress. “It had to be modified five times for her growing frame,” a Kardashian pal told Life & Style late last week.
Chris Brown And Rihanna Diss Each Other Over Breakup
Yesterday, an interview hit the internet that heard Chris Brown officially confirming that his rollercoaster relationship with Rihanna had finally come to an end……for now, anyway. In so many words, Breezy said that Rih-rih was doing her own thing and he was too young not to be doing his own thing too. In true Chris Brown fashion, those weren’t last words on it all. He also took to Twitter last night with a not-so-subliminal message about his ex-thug misses and “loving her” from a distance: continue to read tweet...
After Breezy confirmed their break-up and let his frustrations spill out on to Twitter, Rihanna jabbed back with her side of the story, hinting that Chris still being dishonest and un-loyal was what really led to the break-up:I feel there will be more to come...watch out
Ja Rule Finally Released From Jail After Serving 2 Years For Gun Possession And Tax Invasion
Ja Rule is finally a free man … TMZ has learned, the rapper was released from prison today after serving out his sentences for attempted illegal gun possession and tax evasion.
Mr. Rule — real name Jeffrey Atkins — was released from Ray Brook Federal Prison in New York this morning. A source close to the rapper tells TMZ, his wife picked him up around 10AM and drove him straight home, where he’ll remain on home confinement until July 28th.
The rapper was hit with the 2-year sentence in 2010 when he pled guilty to attempted criminal possession of a weapon — stemming from a 2007 incident in which cops found a loaded semi-automatic handgun in his sports car. He turned himself in to authorities in June 2011.
In July 2011, Ja Rule was also sentenced to 28 months behind bars for tax evasion, after failing to pay taxes on more than $3 million in earnings from 2004-2006. Ja Rule served the tax evasion sentence concurrently with his gun possession sentence.
He was originally set for release in July … but he got out early.
Friday, 3 May 2013
Beyonce's Outrageous Tour Demands... Allegedly!
No junk food is allowed. Instead, snacks must include glass platters of almonds and oatcakes, and there’s a strict green-only policy when it comes to salad bar nibbles. A source said: “She’s extremely regimented and is taking everything extremely seriously, so she expects her list of demands to be adhered to. “Working so hard and with the toll the travel takes on her body in addition to the intense shows, she feels that her requests aren’t too much to ask for as she wants to ensure everything goes to plan.” Before performing at her gig at the O2 in London on Monday night, the star flew in from her base in Berkshire by private helicopter and then took over the venue’s biggest dressing rooms which are normally used by whole sports teams.
She had been offered the chance to become the first artist to use the arena’s newly-refurbished dressing rooms, but chose the larger rooms and then kitted them out with white drapes, leather sofas and rugs. A spokesman for Beyoncé declined to comment
Rat Meat Sold as Lamb Meat in China,,
“How many rats does it take to put together a sheep?” said one typically baffled and angry user of Sina Weibo, China’s Twitter-like microblog service that often acts as a forum for public venting. “Is it cheaper to raise rats than sheep? Or does it just not feel right unless you’re making fakes?”
In an announcement intended to show that the government is serious about improving food safety, the Ministry of Public Security said over the Internet on Thursday that the police had caught traders in eastern China who bought rat, fox and mink flesh and sold it as mutton. But that and other cases of meat smuggling, faking and adulteration that were also featured in Chinese newspapers and Web sites on Friday were unlikely to instill confidence in consumers already queasy over many reports about meat, fruit and vegetables laden with disease, toxins, banned dyes and preservatives.
Sixty-three people were arrested and are accused of “buying fox, mink and rat and other meat products that had not undergone inspection,” which they doused in gelatin, red pigment, and nitrates, and sold as mutton in Shanghai and adjacent Jiangsu Province for about $1.6 million, according to the ministry’s statement. The account did not explain how exactly the traders acquired the rats and other creatures.
Kanye West And Kim Kardashian Finally Sets Wedding Date - No Media Coverage
RadarOnline is reporting that after months of will-they-or-won’t-they speculation, the couple is going to tie the knot in a lavish wedding in the Los Angeles area right after the birth of their child, an insider close to reality TV’s first family tells Radar exclusively. Kim is set to exchange “I do’s” wearing an “ethereal white wedding dress,” the source said, and wants a location “where they can hear the waves and be married under the moon and stars.
“Kim’s choice at the moment is a starlight ceremony in California’s Big Sur,” the insider added, noting that Kanye has signed off on all of the stipulations, as well as signing off on whichever wedding planner she chooses. But don’t think that Kim is going to be making all of the decisions about the wedding — or in this relationship.Kanye has made it completely clear to Kim that he does not want ANY media at the wedding and they will not sell their wedding photos for profit.
“Instead, Kanye says they should consider a donation to one of Kim’s charities like the Skin Cancer Foundation, or Mattel Children’s Hospital in a deal around the wedding for a short film,” the insider said. The decision to marry right after the baby is born came after Kim ended her year-and-a-half long battle with ex-husband Kris Humphries. Of course this is all dependent on the paperwork for Kim’s divorce being finalized in time!
The insider said the superstar couple have been talking “about marriage for a long time, so it’s not like Kanye is going to propose and they’ll get engaged — its been something they’ve been looking forward to for a while during the divorce. “Now that Kim’s almost a free woman, she wants an immediate wedding — she wants to marry the father of her baby as soon as possible, but the birth must come first.” If that’s the case why mention it to the tabloids? Keep it under wraps. Follow Jay and Bey’s lead. No one was sure when they were getting married until they got married. Do you think Yeezy and Kimmy Cakes’ wedding will be hush hush?
Nicki Minaj Vs Mariah Carey: Nicki Called Mariah 'A Bitter Old Woman'
But moments ago, Nicki continued the war on Twitter … telling critics to ask themselves “Why a woman SO successful at her age, is still so INSECURE, and bitter.” Minaj also made a reference to reports that “Idol” producers were recently looking to replace Mariah with former judge Jennifer Lopez:“All dem #1s but JLo phone ringin? Lol. I guess having a personality, being a secure woman, and giving genuine critique still trumps that.” So far, no response from Mariah. see tweets after the cut...
Nicki puhleez, stop throwing your career in the bin cos messing with Mariah is a sure way for you to say bye-bye to the music industry....
Thursday, 2 May 2013
Would You Pay to Cuddle? Meet The Professional Cuddler..
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Meet Jackie Samuels, a professional cuddler who cuddles for $60 per hour and $300 overnight. Hah! Business be what?...Would you pay to cuddle?
Meet Jackie Samuels, a professional cuddler who cuddles for $60 per hour and $300 overnight. Hah! Business be what?...Would you pay to cuddle?
Sunday, 28 April 2013
Dear Belarich: We Live Together But He Wants No Commitment...
Dear Belarich,
About eight months ago I met a very handsome man. Almost immediately we began spending every day together, including spending the night with each other. However, I noticed that he would slowly bring his things over to my house (such as bags of clothes, toothbrush, computer, BATH TOWELS).
After two weeks of dating he asked me where I thought the relationship was going. I answered that I thought we might be able to be a couple in the near future and he told me that he wasn't ready for a relationship because he lost his job, doesn't have a place to stay, and is focused on trying to get back on his own two feet so that he could take care of his daughter. He also told me that he just came out of a terrible relationship (she cheated on him and he ended up getting a restraining order against her) and that he isn't in the position to fully give his heart to a woman right now. I understood that and allowed him to move in with me. continue
Since then we have gotten really close, he’s busy starting a business and I am busy pursuing my law career. He never asks me for money and he contributes to rent, utilities, and groceries. He’s always with me on the weekends, he rarely goes out, and I've snooped through his phone and he doesn't seem to be communicating with any other women.
The problem is, every now and then we get into these heated arguments because I am tired of just being a friend to him. After eight months of spending every day together, having sex, and getting to know each other on a deeper level, I feel that I am head over heels in love with him and ready for a relationship.
Every time I bring up the conversation he says that he can only be a close friend to me right now and that he can see us being together in the future. He always mentions that he isn't seeing any other women and that he feels that having a relationship will distract him from doing the things he needs to do in life right now which is to save money and work to make his business a success.
He has introduced me to his family and I have met his daughter, but he introduces me as a “friend.” He never takes me out because he doesn't have the funds, but he has done other things like cook me fancy dinners. I’m in love with him and I am willing to wait but I’m apprehensive that when he finally gets on his feet he will move on from me and all of the time we spent together will be a waste. My friends keep telling me he is using me because he doesn't want a relationship but he keeps telling me that he wants to be financially stable before he thinks about being in a relationship. I need your help. IS HE USING ME? – Totally Confused
Dear Ms. Totally Confused,
Now, let me get this straight – You let a man move into your house whom you’d only known for a short period of time, he doesn't have a job, he’s not emotionally or mentally capable of giving you what you need, and he’s told you that he doesn't want to be in a relationship, and although you've met his family he only introduces you as his “friend,” and you want to know if he is using you? (* - *) Blank stare at you! What the hell do you think? Please, please, please for the love of God could you for once in your in life use the good sense God gave you and stop being so freaking naïve and gullible. Keep it stepping...
Bela's Corner: Why Seeking Revenge is Bad For You...
Revenge…they say it’s a dish best served cold. We’ve all wanted to get back at someone – especially an ex who has done us dirty. I’ve dreamt of ways to get back at a guy who cheated on me and you’d be surprised how creative one can be when motivated enough to seek revenge. But I’ve never actually gone through with it – mainly because the thoughts alone were satisfying enough and I quickly came to my senses and realized it wasn’t worth it. Plus, I didn’t want to catch a case.
But when I read articles about women busting windows out of cars, or renting billboards or taking out full page ads in magazines blasting their exes, I can’t help but think they’re a little bit cray cray. I’m sure some of you even have friends who air their dirty laundry on Facebook and Twitter, talking about what a lowdown dirty dog their ex-man is and how the sex was wack, he’s a two-minute brotha and hasn’t had a job since a job had him. They may think they’re getting him back by putting all his business on front street, but really what they’re doing is making themselves look foolish. If someone has done something terrible to you, seeking revenge may seem like a natural reaction, but here are a few reasons why plotting revenge may be a bad, bad idea. Click to continue...
1. YOU LOOK CRAZY
I’ll admit, sometimes when I see a woman tossing her man’s things out of a window and she’s kicking his A$ to the curb, I say to myself, “That’s right girl, don’t take no isht from that loser!” But when I hear stories of women taking a bat to a man’s windshield or super gluing his private parts to his leg to get back at him for sleeping with her best friend, I shake my head thinking that the woman is a bit unstable. Sure, the man probably deserves everything she does to him, but from a distance without knowing the details, the woman just looks nuts. Do you really want to be known as the crazy chick in the neighborhood? No one is going to remember what he did to you, they’re only going to remember that you went bat-isht crazy on him.
2. YOU JUSTIFY YOUR EX’S ACTIONS
No one deserves to be cheated on, lied to, deceived or abused – and if your man has done any of those things to you, I can see why you’d want to post fliers in your neighborhood with the word “DOG” written on them and a photo of his face. But if your man says he cheated on you or left you because you’re crazy, people will probably believe him. No one will care that he treated you badly because all they see is your bad behavior – and bad behavior is never rewarded. Don’t counter his actions with even WORSE actions. Simply move on so that he (and no one else) never has anything negative to say about you.
3. IT’S WEAK
We may be hurt or angry when someone does us wrong, but a strong woman knows how to handle adversity. Seeking revenge on someone is easy, but taking the high road shows that you’re a mature, well-adjusted individual who knows how to deal in a crisis. The pain and anger may be real and justifiable, but don’t ever let anyone get the best of you. The pain will eventually go away and you’ll be a stronger person for not allowing bitterness to take a hold of you.
4. SATISFACTION IS ONLY TEMPORARY
It probably felt really good throwing that brick through his window…at the time. But now what? Has that taught him a lesson about being faithful? Does that change the fact that he did something to hurt you? Of course not. The damage is already done and no amount of destruction you can do to his personal property can change the past. If you MUST get your feelings out and off your chest, write your rants down in a journal or call your girlfriends and vent to them. Just make sure you don’t call on friends who encourage you to do anything crazy. Remember, good friends don’t let friends play themselves.
5. CONSEQUENCES
Good friends also implore you to consider the consequences of your actions. Maybe you feel that he deserves to be humiliated the same way he humiliated you – so you email all of his friends and co-workers detailing all of his transgressions (think Garcelle Beauvais and her ex). You think it’s embarrassing to him and harmless enough – until you find out that he’s been fired from his job. Some revenge schemes can go a bit too far and if you want him to get fired because of something in your relationship, you’re just as bad as he is. What happened between you two personally is not something someone should lose friends or a job over. You might be too angry to care about the repercussions of your actions now, but eventually you could live to regret the damage you caused by taking your revenge a little too far.
6. YOU (OR SOMEONE ELSE) COULD GET HURT
When a person is angry, it’s sometimes hard to think past the rage he/she feels that is causing him/her to seek revenge. All one can focus on is payback at any costs, but that can be dangerous. One of the main reasons I never sought to do any physical harm to an ex’s property was because I was afraid he might go off on me…and I’m not trying to get choked out! If the man you’re seeking revenge on has a bad temper, he may either hurt you for humiliating him or damaging his property, or call on his crazy female cousins to do it for him. Even if it’s not physical harm that could be caused, think about the emotional damage you could be doing to his family or children should you seek to embarrass him. You may think he deserves it but all the drama simply isn’t worth it.
7. FUTURE DATES
Usually when you look to get back at someone, you have to put yourself out there in order to do it. Even if you feel justified in your actions, as stated before, you could be the one who winds up looking crazy…and who wants to date crazy? If word gets out that you’re the girl who tried to cut off your ex’s genitals with a dirty razor blade, then chances are the next guy won’t be rushing to date you anytime soon. I don’t know any men out there who think Lorena Bobbitt is hot. Nothing you say will be able to convince the next dude that your ex did something so bad that he deserved THAT type of reaction. All everyone will wonder is how you’ll handle the next breakup…and if he’s smart, the next guy won’t want to find out.
8. BAD KARMA
You may feel that his action deserves an equal and opposite reaction – and that the person who wronged you deserves to be punished. I get that…totally understandable. But what most people don’t realize is that karma can, and usually will, take care of that person for you. It might even be in a much more harsh way than anything you could come up with yourself. The problem with most humans is that we want to see the person who hurt us suffer for ourselves; we want revenge to be swift – and the only way to make sure they get their just due is to do it ourselves. Let the Universe handle it so that you can move on with a clear conscience. Bad behavior is bad behavior, so getting the person back that hurt you makes you just as bad as he or she is…and you’ll be setting yourself up for your own personal failure. Keep the positive energy on your side so that karma doesn’t come after you too.
9. DELAYS HEALING
Usually an elaborate revenge plot takes time – to think up and to execute, which is too much time spent on someone who really shouldn’t matter to you. The time and energy it takes to plan the demise of an ex-lover is time that you could be using to help heal yourself and move on. No one is saying that you can’t be angry for what was done to you, but take that anger and use it to fuel your workouts or spending it with people who care about you. Concentrate all of your energy on positive thoughts and getting over the pain and anger someone has caused you. Plotting revenge is a waste of time and it’ll only make you become someone you don’t like. Want to really get back at him? Be happy – and getting a “revenge makeover” doesn’t hurt either. It’ll make you feel good about yourself and he will see what he’s really missing – and that’s the best revenge anyone can ask for!
Saturday, 27 April 2013
Money Matter: Facebook CEO Reaped $2.3 Billion Gain on Stock Options
...and you are there facebooking your history...Facebook CEO Mark Zuckerberg reaped a gain of nearly $2.3 billion last year when he exercised 60 million stock options just before the online social networking leader's initial public offering.
The windfall detailed in regulatory documents filed Friday saddled the 28-year-old Zuckerberg with a massive tax bill. He raised the money to pay it by selling 30.2 million Facebook Inc. shares for $38 apiece, or $1.1 billion, in the IPO.
Facebook's stock hasn't closed above $38 since the IPO was completed last May. The shares gained 71 cents Friday to close at $26.85.
The 29 percent decline from Facebook's IPO price has cost Zuckerberg nearly $7 billion on paper, based on the 609.5 million shares of company stock that he still owns. His current stake is still worth $16.4 billion.
Beyonce and Andre 3000 Remake Amy Winehouse's "Back to Black" Song
Last week, a snippet of the much-talked about remake of “Back To Black”, which was originally recorded by the late Amy Winehouse, hit the internet but was quickly taken down.There has been much talk about Roc Nation bossman Jay-Z snagging his wife and 3 stacks to remake the Winehouse favorite, and now the full version of the song has finally been released. Continue to the song...
Kim Kardashian Flaunts Her Baby Bump in Greece...
In my head, i'm thinking: how the hell is she going to loose all that weight...With a camera crew in tow, six-months-pregnant Kim Kardashian has arrived on the Greek island of Mykonos for a family vacation. Due in July, the reality star, 32, was photographed on Friday, April 26, taking a solo stroll in the picturesque spot. Although Kanye West's love draped her famous figure in a camouflage-patterned sarong as usual, she did anything but blend into her surroundings. See Kim before the pregnancy..
Thursday, 25 April 2013
Primark Factory Collapse Killing Over 230 Workers in Bangladesh (PHOTOS)
How can you allow people work in a building like that?! ...Bangladeshi rescue workers are continuing their increasingly desperate for survivors in a collapsed clothes factory building where workers made cheap clothes for Primark. Hundreds were killed when the eight-storey Rana Plaza in Savar on the outskirts of Dhakar collapsed yesterday, the day after cracks were seen in its walls. The death toll continues to rise and currently stands at more than 230. Forty people have been pulled alive from the rubble today. There were agonising scenes of grief as relatives lined up to identify corpses laid outside a local school building. One woman screamed in anguish as she reached out to her mother, pulled dead from the heartbreaking scene of destruction. see more pix after the cut...
Beyonce Covers May Issue of Vanity Fair Italy (Photo)
Mrs. Carter has made her way to the cover of Vanity Fair Italy. Beyonce looks stunning in a Givenchy by Riccardo Tisci optic-white organza dress on the May cover - which some of you may have already seen. The Patrick Demarchelier-photographed image was originally used in the March issue of Vogue magazine here in the US, but as the old saying goes, "if it ain't broke, don't fix it." Instead of using the same cover photo as Vogue, Vanity Fair chose to use this equally as amazing shot for the cover of their May issue.
Watch a Student Get Into a Fight With Her Teacher For Applying Make-up in Class (VIDEO)
A fight that erupted between a student and her teacher at a Stockton, California, high school is caught on camera. The incident escalated when the teacher took the make-up the student was applying during lecture and the student in turn, first of all called her mother before approaching the teacher. A school spokesperson says the teacher is now on leave and the incident is being investigated.
Times have changed o because I can't remember being disrespectful to my teacher without getting the black slapped out of me..
American Idol Plans to Replace Mariah Carey with Jennifer Lopez?!
According to Hollywood Reporter, With ratings in a steep slide, American Idol producers and Fox executives in recent weeks hatched a dramatic plan to jump-start the show: replace judge Mariah Carey with Jennifer Lopez, according to knowledgeable sources. These sources tell The Hollywood Reporter that Carey, who was touted as the big new addition to the judge’s panel this year, responded with a threat of litigation. With that, the plan was dropped, though Idol's producers still are negotiating with Lopez -- who served as a popular judge during the past two seasons -- to appear on the show’s finale in May. And insiders say a search already has begun to replace Carey, most likely Nicki Minaj and possibly the entire judge’s panel for next season.
"This is just another ridiculous Idol judge rumor, likely started by talks of Jennifer performing on the finale," a Fox spokeswoman tells THR in a statement.
Hmmmm...lets hope there won't be a diva fight!
"This is just another ridiculous Idol judge rumor, likely started by talks of Jennifer performing on the finale," a Fox spokeswoman tells THR in a statement.
Hmmmm...lets hope there won't be a diva fight!
Boyfriend Admits to Beating 19-year-old Girlfirend to Death With a Dumbbell
Still don't understand why people still endure abuse in relationships in this century....A 22-year-old Arizona man turned himself in to police this week and admitted to beating his girlfriend, a 19-year-old college student, to death with a dumbbell in their apartment days earlier. The victim has been identified as Arizona State University junior and Minnesota native Rebecca 'Becky' Kasper, whose decomposing body was discovered in the bathtub in the off-campus apartment she shared with Luis Soltero.
Court documents indicate that Becky Kasper's wrists were handcuffed and her ankles were restrained, and there was blood splatter in the tub, on the walls and floor. The rest of the woman's body was beginning to decay. A blood-covered dumbbell, believed to be the murder weapon, was found on the bathroom floor.
Next to the dumbbell, police discovered an unsigned note wedged into the bathroom doors which read in part: 'I did not treat her right. She deserved better but never accepted it. So I had to make the choice for her.' The author of the rambling missive goes on to say: 'She died on 420 not because of drugs, but because a sociopath talked and treated her nice...I don't know where to go from here. Do I kill again, end it with myself or become invisible.'
Neighbors told police that Soltero and Kasper had a stormy relationship and often could be heard screaming at one another. The leasing office recently had to replace the front door in Soltero's apartment after it was damaged during a fight between the couple. The 19-year-old victim's employer told officials she often came to work with bruises on her arms as if someone grabbed her, although she had never reported domestic abuse.
Court documents indicate that Becky Kasper's wrists were handcuffed and her ankles were restrained, and there was blood splatter in the tub, on the walls and floor. The rest of the woman's body was beginning to decay. A blood-covered dumbbell, believed to be the murder weapon, was found on the bathroom floor.
Next to the dumbbell, police discovered an unsigned note wedged into the bathroom doors which read in part: 'I did not treat her right. She deserved better but never accepted it. So I had to make the choice for her.' The author of the rambling missive goes on to say: 'She died on 420 not because of drugs, but because a sociopath talked and treated her nice...I don't know where to go from here. Do I kill again, end it with myself or become invisible.'
Neighbors told police that Soltero and Kasper had a stormy relationship and often could be heard screaming at one another. The leasing office recently had to replace the front door in Soltero's apartment after it was damaged during a fight between the couple. The 19-year-old victim's employer told officials she often came to work with bruises on her arms as if someone grabbed her, although she had never reported domestic abuse.
College Student Wrongfully Accused For The Boston Bombing Found Dead
Police in Providence pulled a man’s body from the Providence River on Tuesday, and authorities said it is “very possible” that it is Sunil Tripathi, 22, a former Brown University student who has been missing since mid-March.
Providence police Lieutenant Joseph Donnelly said Tuesday night that “it’s very, very possible” that the body could be Tripathi’s, but also said authorities will not know for sure until the medical examiner’s office in Providence identifies the body Wednesday morning. Donnelly said Tripathi’s family has not been notified of the body’s recovery.
Donnelly said the body was found in the river behind the Wyndham Garden Providence Hotel at around 6 p.m. The coach of Brown’s rowing team, which practices in that area, saw the body floating in the water and called police, Donnelly said.
Providence police Lieutenant Joseph Donnelly said Tuesday night that “it’s very, very possible” that the body could be Tripathi’s, but also said authorities will not know for sure until the medical examiner’s office in Providence identifies the body Wednesday morning. Donnelly said Tripathi’s family has not been notified of the body’s recovery.
Donnelly said the body was found in the river behind the Wyndham Garden Providence Hotel at around 6 p.m. The coach of Brown’s rowing team, which practices in that area, saw the body floating in the water and called police, Donnelly said.
Sunday, 21 April 2013
Televangelist Juanita Bynum jailed in Dallas for failure to appear in civil proceeding
Gospel performer and televangelist Juanita Bynum spent the night in the Lew Sterrett Justice Center after authorities arrested her on a warrant for her failure to appear in a Dallas civil proceeding against her, according to public records.
The Georgia woman was booked in at the jail about 10:30 p.m. Thursday. She was released after she appeared in a Dallas courtroom earlier today to answer questions in the case, which includes a 2007 judgment ordering her to pay $140,000 to ALW Entertainment.
She has yet to pay the money to promoter Al Wash’s company, his attorney said, though they are hopeful that the case may finally be resolved. Wash sued Bynum for failing to perform in a play for which he had paid her.
“She has disclosed the whereabouts of her assets and her business dealings,” entertainment attorney David Small said.
Bynum has faced controversy in recent years. In 2008, her husband at the time, Thomas Weeks, pleaded guilty to assaulting her and was sentenced to probation, according to reports. The couple later divorced.
The Georgia woman was booked in at the jail about 10:30 p.m. Thursday. She was released after she appeared in a Dallas courtroom earlier today to answer questions in the case, which includes a 2007 judgment ordering her to pay $140,000 to ALW Entertainment.
She has yet to pay the money to promoter Al Wash’s company, his attorney said, though they are hopeful that the case may finally be resolved. Wash sued Bynum for failing to perform in a play for which he had paid her.
“She has disclosed the whereabouts of her assets and her business dealings,” entertainment attorney David Small said.
Bynum has faced controversy in recent years. In 2008, her husband at the time, Thomas Weeks, pleaded guilty to assaulting her and was sentenced to probation, according to reports. The couple later divorced.
Wednesday, 17 April 2013
HOW TO LOVE A WOMAN
I counsel men who struggle with how to love a woman, specifically how to love their partner. Sometimes it's because of how she looks, sometimes because she doesn't love them very well, and sometimes because they don't like who she is.
The key to how to love a woman is to fall in love with the RIGHT part of her. Advertising tells us to fall in love with how she looks. Hollywood tells us to fall in love with how she loves. Real people, in successful relationships will tell us to fall in love with who she is.
A woman's character is the most beautiful part of her. How to love a woman? Fall in love with that.
Kurt Smith
The key to how to love a woman is to fall in love with the RIGHT part of her. Advertising tells us to fall in love with how she looks. Hollywood tells us to fall in love with how she loves. Real people, in successful relationships will tell us to fall in love with who she is.
A woman's character is the most beautiful part of her. How to love a woman? Fall in love with that.
Kurt Smith
Three Men Deported From Saudi Arabia For Being "Too Handsome"
This is just plain comedy, why won't they deport them sef....According to a report by Emirates247, several Saudi religious police men stormed the UAE pavilion on Sunday at the festival in the capital Riyadh and evicted three Emirati young men because “they are too handsome. “A festival official said the three Emiratis were taken out on the grounds they are too handsome and that the Commission members feared female visitors could fall for them,” the news service said, adding that the festival’s management took urgent measures to deport the three to Abu Dhabi.
Bela's Corner: Help!..He is Married But Won't Let Me Go.
Dear Belarich,
I read one of your post about a girl in love with a married man, though that's not my case but I think I'm in a similar dilemma. I intern at a bank which is where I met Lyon and the attraction was instant. At first, it was a playful-innocent flirtation because I was constantly reminded of his marital status, so there was nothing else on my mind. You can imagine my shock when he grabbed me one day after work and said I was driving him crazy. I thought it was one of those his jokes but it turned serious when he kissed me and was touching me all over. I knew it wasn't right so I begged him to stop and ran out of the building. This led to series of calls and text messages which I cant really tell the details. I don't like using the office toilet and even going to the basement alone for fear that he might show up.
I know I'm equally responsible for this as well as him, but how do I make him stop this obsession before it gets ugly?!Personally, it think avoiding him won't solve anything, so it's best both of you sit and have a mature conversation about it. Or you can resolve to the oldest trick in the book "I'll tell your wife"...lolz....
Tuesday, 16 April 2013
Sick: 23-year-old Man Beats 1-year-old Daughter To Death Based On His Fantasy
I'm sick to my gut just reporting this, because I really don't understand why demons like this roam this earth...According to NYDailyNews, a Florida dad beat his one-year-old baby daughter to death after burning her feet with cigars because he felt "relieved" when causing another person pain, police said. Rony Veus, 23, is accused of throwing tiny Honey to the floor, pulling her hair, throwing her on the bed and forcing her to eat cinnamon as part of a sickening campaign of abuse.
Cops were called to his Apopka home on Thursday after she was found unconscious. She was rushed to the hospital and, suffering from bleeding on the brain, remained in a coma for three days. She died on Saturday.
Doctors, suspecting she had been abused, contacted the police. Veus was initially arrested on charges of aggravated battery on a child, but they have now been upgraded to murder. He reportedly confessed to officers about what he had done, reports Click Orlando. Veus is said to have told detectives that he "felt relieved" when causing her pain or discomfort. He also said he fantasized about harming her.
Cops were called to his Apopka home on Thursday after she was found unconscious. She was rushed to the hospital and, suffering from bleeding on the brain, remained in a coma for three days. She died on Saturday.
Doctors, suspecting she had been abused, contacted the police. Veus was initially arrested on charges of aggravated battery on a child, but they have now been upgraded to murder. He reportedly confessed to officers about what he had done, reports Click Orlando. Veus is said to have told detectives that he "felt relieved" when causing her pain or discomfort. He also said he fantasized about harming her.
Thursday, 11 April 2013
Bela's Corner: Help, I'm A Newlywed And My Wife Is Allergic To My Semen...
Dear Belarich,
I'm dealing with a serious issue which i'm totally embarrassed to talk about but the longer i keep it, the more terrifying it becomes. I and my wife got married barely 9 months ago and for the fear of God decided not to have sex before marriage. Everything was perfect until we had sex because aftrewards, She had this bizarre reaction; burning, swelling and redness, which was very unusual. At first, I thought she had contracted an STD [sexually transmitted disease]. Horrified, she made an appointment with the gynecologist for testing and was nervous about the result. After several doctors' visits and hours of research online, She finally got some answers, but it derailed our sex life and shook my marriage. The doctor confirmed that she had "Seminal Plasma Hypersensitivity", an allergic reaction to the proteins in my semen. Even using a condom didn't help, so we have avoided intimacy.
My problem now is that I've waited so long for this and now I cant even touch my wife. I'm contemplating divorcing her because I don't want to be unfaithful but I don't want her to feel abandoned. Please what should I do?Hmmm, please y'all advice him o...what would you do if your wife is allergic to your sperm?
Bela's Corner: Study Shows Bra Makes The Boobs Saggy
According to a recent study by French Scientist 'Professor Jean-Denis Rouillon, from the university of Besancon, women who wear bras have saggier boobs than women who don’t. The study found that bras give no benefit at all in “denying breasts gravity” and claim the underwear is just a “false necessity”.
The research suggests wearing a bra could actually be sending our busts southwards, and does little to ease back pain. Professor Jean-Denis Rouillon, led the 15-year study into women’s breasts. He said: “Medically, physiologically, anatomically – breasts gain no benefit from being denied gravity. “On the contrary, they get saggier with a bra”.
Do you agree?
The research suggests wearing a bra could actually be sending our busts southwards, and does little to ease back pain. Professor Jean-Denis Rouillon, led the 15-year study into women’s breasts. He said: “Medically, physiologically, anatomically – breasts gain no benefit from being denied gravity. “On the contrary, they get saggier with a bra”.
Do you agree?
Monday, 8 April 2013
South Africa: First Legal African Gay Marriage
A gay couple in South Africa have married in a wedding ceremony uniting Zulu and Tswana traditions, which they hope will send a message to others that “Being gay is as African as being black.” Tshepo Cameron Modisane and Thoba Calvin Sithole, both 27, met several years ago while studying in Durban, but lost contact with each other. A chance meeting in a gym in the suburbs of Johannesburg led to them becoming training partners, then a couple. After three years as boyfriends Mr Modisane proposed in June 2012.
South Africa legalised same-sex marriage in 2006, but the pair still drew media attention as the area’s “first legal gay wedding”. On 6 April the pair were married in a ceremony drawing on traditions from both Mr Modisane’s Tswana and Mr Sithole’s Zulu ancestry. Both wore traditional regalia, asked their ancestors for blessing, and a cow was slaughtered. Gifts were presented to the parents of both men as thanks for raising them.
South Africa legalised same-sex marriage in 2006, but the pair still drew media attention as the area’s “first legal gay wedding”. On 6 April the pair were married in a ceremony drawing on traditions from both Mr Modisane’s Tswana and Mr Sithole’s Zulu ancestry. Both wore traditional regalia, asked their ancestors for blessing, and a cow was slaughtered. Gifts were presented to the parents of both men as thanks for raising them.
Beyonce And Jay Z In Trouble Over Trip To Cuba For Their Anniversary
The hip hop duo seem like they've been having the time of their lives in the south-of-the-border country, from going to the University of Arts and taking pictures with students, as well as sight-seeing all they can. At one point, Bey even hopped on a stage and gave a friendly hand kiss to one of the Cuban performers!These two are just unstoppable, and their fans certainly keep them on their toes! While it might be all smiles down in Cuba, it looks like their trip is raising concern for Florida politicians.
According to the NY Daily News, Reps. Ileana Ros-Lehtinen and Mario Diaz-Balart wrote a letter to the director of the U.S. Office of Foreign Assets Control showing concern for their trip. Citizens of the U.S. can't travel to Cuba for tourism, and need a special kind of visa in order to make a trip down there, which is why Beyonce and Jay's raises some eyebrows.
The two reps want an investigation into their trip, and claim that “U.S. dollars spent on Cuban tourism directly fund the machinery of oppression that brutally repressed the Cuban people.”
According to the NY Daily News, Reps. Ileana Ros-Lehtinen and Mario Diaz-Balart wrote a letter to the director of the U.S. Office of Foreign Assets Control showing concern for their trip. Citizens of the U.S. can't travel to Cuba for tourism, and need a special kind of visa in order to make a trip down there, which is why Beyonce and Jay's raises some eyebrows.
The two reps want an investigation into their trip, and claim that “U.S. dollars spent on Cuban tourism directly fund the machinery of oppression that brutally repressed the Cuban people.”
Saturday, 6 April 2013
Ray J Releases New Single Aimed At Kim Kardashian And Kanye West (MUSIC)
Ray J wants Kanye West to know ... when it comes to Kim Kardashian, Kanye's getting sloppy seconds ... because he hit it first.
As you know, Ray J famously had his way with Kim in the epic sex tape, "Kim K Superstar."
TMZ has obtained some of the hysterical lyrics to Ray J's new song, "I Hit It First," which will be released next week ... and they're awesome!
She might move on to rappers and ballplayers
But we all know I hit it first.
I had her head going North and her ass going South
But now baby chose to go West
No matter where she goes or who she knows
She still belongs in my bed.
We're told Ray J is making a music video featuring a Kim look-alike -- pre-pregnancy, we presume.
Unless he's into that kinda thing.
As you know, Ray J famously had his way with Kim in the epic sex tape, "Kim K Superstar."
TMZ has obtained some of the hysterical lyrics to Ray J's new song, "I Hit It First," which will be released next week ... and they're awesome!
She might move on to rappers and ballplayers
But we all know I hit it first.
I had her head going North and her ass going South
But now baby chose to go West
No matter where she goes or who she knows
She still belongs in my bed.
We're told Ray J is making a music video featuring a Kim look-alike -- pre-pregnancy, we presume.
Unless he's into that kinda thing.
Thursday, 4 April 2013
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